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Larry King and Divorce; MtRG and Marriage
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Category: News and Politics

Marriage was not designed as a mechanism for providing friendship, erotic experience, romantic love, personal fulfillment, continuous lay psychotherapy, or recreation. The Western European family was not designed to carry a lifelong load of highly emotional romantic freight. Given its present structure, it simply has to fail when asked to do so.
~ The Atlantic Monthly, November 1966

The impending divorce of CNN talk show superstar Larry King and the possible ninth marriage of Elizabeth Taylor has led me (it did, really) to muse, ponder, and think about marriage and love, and question openly whether true love indeed is possible and forever.

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The news reports of Larry King filing for divorce, as celebrity gossip website www.tmz.com attests, leads me to further ruminate about the arrogance of some bloggers and commentators to brag that all is tranquil in their own personal world of matrimony.

I like the institution of marriage. I want to get married. Yet I am told many time by the trolls of MySpace that I cannot possibly get married "with my attitude", all while their own private lives are super locked up and shuttered in their profiles.

It is funny how the smug and deceptively content married people, on both the left and right in politics, for whatever agenda exists, attacks my dating habits, choices of women to date, and sex life, when these same detractors claim to be happily married for x number of years and have wonderful kids. In other words, they want me to believe I am Norman Bates and they are Norman Rockwell. But is it really that hunky dory in Mudville, Casey?

The point is, a seemingly picture perfect and happy marriage can turn dreadfully unhappy at the drop of any eye. Even I personally thought, despite my predilection for pessimism, that Larry King finally got it together with his SEVENTH marriage. I guess that even did not work out. This point is also interesting. Both of These women are Mormons, a religion that goes into collective apolexy when the words divorce and extramarital affair are entered into conversation. So what's the problem? That's exactly what came to mind before I reached for the puke bucket after reading the TMZ article --my reaction at the thought that anyone would want to bed Larry King's embalmed liberal body for the sake of a $160,000 car! So these stupid broads are fighting over him? They deserve him.
Larry King and 7th wife both file for divorce after claims he slept with her younger sister
New York Daily News ^ | April 14, 2010 | Nancy Dillon

Posted on Wednesday, April 14, 2010 6:20:34 PM by Zakeet

CNN's Larry King is splitting from his seventh wife, who says the 76-year-old cheated on her. The talk show anchor and his wife Shawn Southwick, 50, both filed for divorce Wednesday citing "irreconcilable differences." The marriage crumbled after Southwick accused King of having an affair with one of her close relatives, TMZ reported. In December, the National Enquirer reported King cheated on his wife with her younger sister Shannon Engemann, quoting an unnamed friend of Southwick's.The tabloid also said Southwick had an affair with her son's baseball coach in 2008 - a claim she denied.

"It's a very sad day in Larry's life and he hopes the divorce will be amicable," his lawyer Susan Carter told TMZ.[Snip] Brooklyn-born King has been married eight times to seven women. He married his third wife twice. Link:

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Oh yes, and like I stated before, Elizabeth Taylor may get married for the ninth time.

And, to my loudest detractors, I am a loser for not being married YET! Funny how the Nostradamus-in-training raspberry blowing crowd insists I will never marry and experience a family, yet so many people claim to be happily married yet are in reality not happy at all, and may other people are multiply married and continuing a destructive pattern, not unlike Mr. King and Ms. Taylor.

If you are married more than once, you know the drill, it is always the same damned mantra chanted excuse: it was the spouse's fault, not the other person owning some part of the blame. Questioning the failure of a former marriage is taboo to the trolls, but my single status is of everyone's interest and fodder for satire and parody.

The Atlantic Monthly, in November 1966, addresses divorce and its affects on children:

What of the children in a society that is moving inexorably toward consecutive plural marriages? Under present arrangements in which marriages are ostensibly lifetime contracts and then are dissolved through hypocritical collusions or messy battles in court, the children do suffer. Marriage and divorce turn lovers into enemies, and the child is left to thread his way through the emotional wreckage of his parents' lives. Financial support of the children, mere subsistence; is not really a problem in a society as affluent as ours. Enduring emotional support of children by loving, healthy, and friendly adults is a serious problem in America, and it is a desperately urgent problem in many families where divorce is unthinkable.

But I will assure you this: if and when I meet the woman of my dreams, she will not be in the middle of a drug deal. I don't judge others, but I will scrutinize those who hold me in low regard due to my own personal choices which do not effect their own day to day lives. If I live in a 5th Dimension as a detractor claims, it is because I am a fan of Marilyn McCoo and Billy Davis Jr.

All I can say to the charge that I am in the 5th Dimension is: let the sunshine in!

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Like a marriage, real and online friendships and alliances can change at the blink of an eye. F'instance, when people are online and realities and perceptions are blurred or, in some cases, fabricated. Look, I am not a perfect person by any means. Am I occasionally immature? You bet.

Am I petty and sometimes appear like I want to continue on the horse-beaten path? Of course I do.

But, my dear readers, I do try to be fairly consistent in my personal beliefs, whether they are on politics, social issues, current events, and entertainment world related topics. I believe what I say and won't bend to a current wind direction to curry favor, win over phony "new" friends, or pile onto a perceived enemy of a popular blogger. However, calling out bullshit artists and phonies is part of why I am on this earth, so here goes nothing.

I am so sick of some of these MySpace fence-sitting parasites playing the apple polisher to a particular blogger, without the other blogger fully realizing the past acts of hubris toward the same exact person they are now embracing and lauding.

Let's do a brief case study if you are not following my paradigm:
Likachu Pikachu

Lobbyist Lika

And I wish people would quit bringing [this blogger] down. She is a young woman whose still in her honeymoon period with her husband, and is raising a daughter. Instead of dragging her down, people should be helping to lift her UP. She HAS made great improvements in her own life and herself. Give credit or be quiet.

Posted by Likachu Pikachu on Thursday 15/04/2010 - 5:39 AM

*eye roll*

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The same person weeks before calling this blogger Skelatar and Scabarina is now a born again fan of this blogger. This is blatant opportunism because (1) the blogger is in a blog where I am blocked from commenting, (2) she never likes to confront me directly on, so she chooses "safe" venues where she does not have to endure any responses that will present her in a less than stellar light, and (3) she herself openly and frequently questioned this marriage as subservient and almost domineering and mocked its Christian foundation (I would post the links to prove it, but her other profile was oops! somehow deleted, and thus the evidence went poof)! It is humorous that via the MySpace switcheroo for alliances, this very person who was previously attacking the marriage of one person, is now stating, in all apparent sincerity, that this couple is in their honeymoon period, is happy, and is basically kissing their butt because they know someone is blocked from commenting and cannot defend him/herself.
Exhibit number 1. Under the Megan Bucks profile she now openly stated was her, she said these choice words to the young couple in this blog:

Under New Management!

Captain Bitchfest

You are so damn lucky that Leka canceled her pictures of you and your cunty wife. It canceled in my blog too. I see how you talk nasty towards people and act like some dumb faggot trying to prove you're straight. Go fuck yourself.

!!Lika!!

Lika TheLobbyist

..This certain person is on HER friend list, not mine. He, too, would like to see me fail at everything, because of hate. He (the guy w/ 4 initials) is hateful to begin with. xxxxx being so hateful proves she is still victimized by her past, or the anger would be low, and she could be more the Christian she brags to be about.

Exhibit number 2. Oh yeah, and in this cache of her deleted blog, she make some pretty choice words about her "new friend". Make no mistake, people are opportunists on MySpace. People will align with the latest flavor of the month to become popular or to bash someone who is perceived as the whipping boy/girl of the month.

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But enough of that detour into the reality of online phonies and let's return to the problem with marriage and those who feel compelled to attack people who are at an age they feel "should" be married, and are not conforming to societal pressure. We are not talking of the playboy men and promiscuous women, but the people who occasionally, not usually by choice of their own, fail to meet a compatible partner and have the spouse of their dreams.

I, frankly, am tired of smarmy young people believing that their marriages will last forever when they are no longer transitioning from child to man, as it has been for most of American history, to the transition from child to teenager to man. Men and women regularly married at the ages of some MySpace people: as young as 15 to 18. But the gist was...these men were running farms and were running businesses and actually doing something. Men became men early. Teenage years did not exist except in a chronological sense. Men were given deep responsibilities early. My own grandfather was forced to quit school at 14 to help his father run the family bakery in Brooklyn.
[There] is the real cultural break between teenagers and adults in our society. This is a recent phenomenon. In my generation there was no teen culture. Adolescents wanted to become adults as soon as possible. The teenage years were a time of impatient waiting, as teenage boys tried to dress and act like little men. ~ The Atlantic Monthly, November 1966

That is it in a nutshell. With the advent of the youth culture (starting around the 1950s with the advent of rock music and accelerating ever since) came a retardation in the maturity levels of the American man and woman to the point where almost all young marriages HAD to fail...and they have. First marriages are now "starter marriages" because 20 somethings have such a uniformly high divorce rate. Marriage is a lot of work, giving and taking, and these self centered iPod wearing, Starbucks supping, arrogant "I know more than you" twenty-something nose up in the air pontificators end up with a divorce decree and single parenthood.

As I pepper some choice quotes in this blog, I am convinced that over 43 years ago The Atlantic Monthly pegged marriage correctly, and it is even more true today. Now, another of the best passages of this article stated:
Clearly, in middle-class America, the trend is ever toward more romantic courtship and marriage, earlier premarital sexual intercourse, earlier first marriages, more extramarital affairs, earlier first divorces, more frequent divorces and remarriages. The trend is away from stable lifelong monogamous relationships toward some form of polygamous male-female relationship. Perhaps we should identify it as serial or consecutive polygamy, simply because Americans in significant numbers are going to have more than one husband or more than one wife.

Mind you, this was written in 1966, not 2010.

So folks, stop the sanctimonious crap about your f**ing perfect marriages, and leave single people to their own devices.

I may get married. I may not. I may have children. I may not.

Hate me or not, there are more future Larry King's and Elizabeth Taylor's amongst you than you deign ever admit.

But you don't have to say anything.

I already did it for you.

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